Our Own Paradise

Dear Friends & Family,

The ups and downs of  living with this disease are fast and furious. One minute we are happy and the next we are falling apart in tears. Although we are blessed in many ways, the sad truth is Curt is fading away day by day. Ten months ago our friends began planning our third annual Palm Springs trip for this September. I asked them not to talk about it in front of Curt as I knew he would not be alive at this time. Thankfully I was wrong and we spent last weekend together with our friends in Rancho Mirage at an awesome rental home feeling like we were in Paradise.

As I was packing for the trip and talking to my mom on the phone she said "I wonder how many people pack up their hospital beds and go away as often as you guys do." We are fortunate to have friends who are willing to disassemble, load, haul and reassemble the bed, help me carry bags of medications, wheelchair parts, chargers, linens, pillows, blender, drinks, special foods and even his toilet. These days we definitely do not travel light.

It is awesome to have friends that help get Curt in and out of bed, in and out of the pool, help me shower him, feed him and prepare his drinks and meals. Curt had a wonderful time this weekend relaxing in the pool and laughing with everyone. Curt asked me to thank you guys for a great weekend and for all you did for him. Thanks to my girlfriends for being there for me; what better place to have a breakdown than in Palm Springs, sitting by the pool, under the moon, surrounded by friends. Thanks for snapping me out of it too. We love you all!

We never imagined our lives would be so full at this point in the disease. It seems with the help of those around us we can keep on going and making the most of every moment.

Love,
Cindy, Curt, Clarissa, Cayden & Corbin

Our 4,000 square foot pool and 9 hole putting green!
This is truly Paradise!

Friends Forever!
Thanks for a great weekend!

Love this man...and his smile!

Our house for the weekend was awesome!

The kids had fun at home without us!
Thanks Schultze Family for having Corbin for the weekend!

No One Else

Dear Curt,

From walking on the beach holding hands at 16 to sleeping in separate beds at 46, there is no one else I would want beside me. You inspire me day by day, hour by hour to be the best that I can be. You are the perfect partner to raise children with. You are strong physically, mentally and emotionally. I have always admired your common sense and your ability to help educate people with ordinary problems.

No one else smiles like you do. I have always known without a doubt you love me through and through. I can feel your admiration and respect and therefore I have never needed gifts or tokens of your love. It has always been apparent.  You have continuously made me feel important, intelligent and beautiful....at all times! You have stood beside me through health issues, friend predicaments, work problems and parenting decisions.

Together we have raised wonderful children. They are considerate, courteous, full of common sense and fun! They have your beauty both inside and out. I will see you through them for the rest of my life. Thank you for the most wonderful gift of all....our children.

Words cannot express the deepness of the love I have for you. You are a part of my soul. You are a part of me. You are my world. 

Love,
Cindy

Corbin has always looked forward to his end of summer Birthday Bash.  Year after year we have had parties with water toys, swimming, slides, Chick-Fil-A, and kids galore. The party begins around noon and ends late in the evening with older kids and our friends joining in on the festivities. This year, Corbin said he didn’t want to have a birthday party. He said he thought Daddy was going to die on his birthday and he didn’t want to have to pretend to be happy at his party. We convinced him that everything would work out and to go ahead with the party. On the morning of his birthday, Corbin woke Curt with a big hug and said, “Yay Daddy, you made it to my birthday.” That night I thanked Curt for hanging in there through the chaotic birthday weekend and for helping me raise 3 wonderful teenagers!

 

Happy 13th Birthday Corbin!

Corbin's Birthday Dinner at The Cheesecake Factory

 

Sometimes....

Dear Friends & Family,

Sometimes I feel like a victim. A victim of this disease, a victim of this universe. I feel the world spinning around me and do not feel a part of it. I watch as families take vacations, as people play at the beach, as commuters go back and forth to work, as people all around me talk and make plans. I hear it, I see it and I do not feel a part of it. Sometimes peoples’ stories of a bad day, troubles with friends or problems at their jobs, seem so simple to me. I feel I have another level to my soul that no one can reach or understand. I asked Curt if he felt the same way and he said “yes”.

Sometimes I feel life is too hard on us right now. Are we not dealing with enough? Corbin breaks his hand, Clarissa breaks her hand, Cayden’s truck gets broken into; causing doctor visits, long waits, talking with detectives, these are all things that take away from our family time and zap my (our) energy.

We are just living day to day. We can’t plan for the future, we can’t go anywhere, we can barely communicate with each other. Curt is uncomfortable and frustrated. It is hard to watch him suffer. It is hard to watch his health decline day by day. It is physically hard to care for him. It is emotionally hard to try to live life as normal and be energetic and positive. It is hard to watch the kids’ hearts being torn apart. I feel all the time that my heart is heavy and breaking, for them, for Curt, for me and for all that know him.

Thank you for all the texts to Curt! He has really enjoyed hearing from so many people. If you would like to brighten his day, send a text to him at (310) 994-7747.

Love,
Cindy, Curt, Clarissa, Cayden & Corbin

30 Years

Dear Friends & Family,

This year marks the 30th Olympic Summer Games, and it is also the 30th year of The Curt & Cindy Story. August 4, 1982 was our first kiss and the beginning of our life together. Unlike the Olympic athletes, we didn't have to train hard, jump over hurdles or battle rough water to get to where we are. With Curt's easy-going attitude and my ability to organize and plan, things have been pretty easy for us. We never longed for fame or medals but dedicated our lives to each other and lifted the other up when needed. It has not been a relationship of endurance but rather a long gingerly stroll along side one another. Now more than ever he is my hero. He battles each day just to get through the day and I am his biggest cheerleader, beside him all the way. Thank you for your continuing prayers for his comfort.

Curt's days are pretty mellow and sometimes lonely. If you get a chance send him a text of a simple hello, a thought or a joke (make sure to include your name). (310) 994-7747. Thanks!

Love,
Cindy, Curt, Clarissa, Cayden & Corbin

Taking Curt for a ride in my new car!

I got to go flying again! Thanks Mike (and pilot Jeff)!

Flowers and chocolates from Curt to celebrate our 30 year dating anniversary!
He wrote the note on the box for me (with a little help from Clarissa)!

And some Opus One wine (thanks Ed & Julie), so delicious!!
I love you Curtis Mitchell!

Crazy

Dear Family & Friends,

It is crazy that we can wake up and go throughout our day seemingly so normal.
It is crazy that random strangers reach out and want to help Curt and our family.
It is crazy how many people park in handicap spaces that don't look like they need it.
It is crazy how Curt can still smile every day.
It is crazy how much our family laughs together every day.
It is crazy that the kids have maintained their 3.5 and above GPA's since Curt was diagnosed.
It is crazy how certain people give and give so selflessly.
It is crazy how a mosquito landed on Curt's nose and stayed there until we could figure out why he was yelling.
It is crazy how much weight Curt has lost and how much easier it is to lift him and maneuver him.
It is crazy that people stop by with food, flowers and hugs; so many caring people.
It is crazy how many people read this blog each week.
It is crazy how my love for Curt gets deeper each day.
It is crazy how we can live as if he is not dying.

Actually....it's not crazy. It is a gift.
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13

Love,
Cindy

Happy 18th Birthday Cousin/Nephew Jonathon!

At home with The Guys!

Hanging out with our great friends!



Corbin is off to church camp!